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It would be nice if the love lives portrayed in Disney movies accurately reflected our own relationships.  The storyteller version of love is the same in every Disney movie. Cinderella is the classic example of the unrealistic way in which Disney portrays life.  There are many people that are miserable and live in cruel environments as Cinderella did.  Of course, not many of us ever meet the fairy godmother and have the opportunity to meet a Prince who at first glance falls insanely in love with us.

In my lifetime, I have never experienced or even known anyone that has ever experienced the story tale version of love.  If the Disney version of love was true, I would be with my Prince Charming as we speak.  Instead, I am without him and wishing we were together.  If their version was realistic, my parents would still be married and we would not have a divorce rate of almost fifty- percent.

It would be much healthier for children if we did not indoctrinate them with false ideas of reality.  These false ideas only lead to despair when one figures out that the image of life imagined is unattainable. I grew up watching all of these Disney love stories and I truly believed that my life could have ended just like Cinderella's did.

Since we were kids we have been brain washed by watching these fictional movies. We seem to believe that a woman can't be truly happy without finding her own Prince Charming or dream man, that will sweep her off her feet, and take her off to a better life.

The man of my dreams would come into my life, sweeping me off my feet, just like in all of the Disney movies. We would fall helplessly in love the moment our eyes met.  In my mind, he is extremely handsome, disgustingly romantic, and the ultimate gentleman.  He would take care of me and provide everything I ever wanted.  My dream man would spoil me and pamper me everyday and in every way.  In my dream, he would give me everything I ever wanted.  I would have the storybook wedding, the enormous, beautiful house, a nice, new car, and at least one perfect child, if I want children.  We would live in luxury, happily ever after, just like in the Disney movies.

What Disney leaves out is that Prince Charming can break your heart and leave you in utter despair.  He can cheat on you with Snow White and get Sleeping Beauty pregnant.  Prince Charming could even go through a mid-life crisis. After being married to you for twenty years, he leaves you for the twenty year old Arial.  Prince Charming might even come out of the closet and divorce you in order to marry Ken. My favorite is when Prince Charming turns to Cinderella and says, "I am just not ready for a long term commitment", after being in a two year long, serious relationship.

For years, I truly believed that once I found the man of my dreams that would be it, I would have the story tale life.  Things do not happen that way and most childhood dreams are shattered.
Once I found my Prince Charming things did not happen the way Disney promised.  First, it was hard to let my guard down completely and trust him because of the reputation he had with women, being a heart breaker to say the least.  Everyone was warning me not to date him but I fell in love with him fast.  We dated for about two years, we were crazy about each other; inseparable.  Further along in the relationship, we hit some rough times.  He and his family do not have a lot of money and I even changed my luxurious dreams and decided that love and life with him is a lot more important than material things.  We ended up fighting over stupid things that seemed important at the time, like helping to keep the house clean.  I believe it was just from cabin fever that we fought so much over the little things.  We also went through some personal and very emotional hardships together, which affected our relationship.  We both did stupid things and fought over unimportant issues, which hurt the relationship.  Just when I felt the relationship was blossoming into something even more beautiful he gives up on the relationship, he gives up on me.  We were both finally realizing that we couldn't change each other's annoying habits, which I now miss deeply and find cute. We started to accept each other, for who they are, annoying habits and all.  I felt devastated when we broke up.

 Words could not even begin to explain fully the pain I felt.  I know to this day that if he would have never gave up we could still be together and loving each other with all of our might.  Unfortunately, he chose to be lazy and give up instead of riding out the bump with me.  It still hurts to this day, almost a year later, and it is hard to talk about.  I feel that if he wouldn't have broke it off the way he did we would be over the stupid fighting we did and enjoying each others company and our life together.  We were engaged so we might have been getting married in a few months, after he graduated from school.  Hopefully, one day he will realize he made a mistake and we could pick up from where we left off, but I am not counting on it.  I am just now recovering from the heartbreak, and not even fully.  I am trying to rebuild my dreams with a realistic approach; it doesn't contain men in it just yet, unless it is my Prince Charming.

Obviously, the illusion I had of the perfect life of love with my Prince Charming did not end happily ever after like I dreamed it would.  My dreams were shattered because I started thinking that there was no such thing as true love.  Everyone around me did not have the perfect love tale life that Disney movies portray. The dreams and illusions I had of love are totally unrealistic.

I want my children and others to grow up in a life that is not so sheltered. Love is a grand and tremendously wonderful thing. But it is necessary to realize that not everything is like imagined.  My life does not compare to the lives that Disney gave us.

I have conjured up the perfect, modern version of Cinderella.  Disney should make a movie where Cinderella doesn't just get the dream life handed to her on a silver platter. Disney should make the movie about the stories of hardship in marriage and relationships, and also how to deal with and overcome them.  Disney should have Cinderella and Prince Charming fighting over household chores.  They should squabble over Prince Charming leaving his clothes, including rancid smelling boots on the den floor, because Cinderella might trip over the boots or get sick from the smell.  Cinderella and Prince Charming should fight about the fact that he doesn't dry off in the bathtub and gets the floor saturated. As a result, Cinderella walks into the bathroom in socked feet, and her socks get wet from the puddles of water that remain from the Prince's shower.  Disney should have Cinderella and Prince Charming fight over whose car they are going to drive that day.  Cinderella needs to fight with Prince Charming about some of his other annoying habits, like farting next to her, which is also rancid and sickening. Disney could even have Cinderella and Prince Charming arguing over money issues.

Although there may be fights, there still is love between Prince Charming and Cinderella.  The love is proclaimed when Cinderella and Prince Charming embrace one another passionately and kiss.  When they go to the park and have a romantic picnic, or when Prince Charming and Cinderella hold each other at night. That is when the love is revealed.  The love between the young couple even shows when they are couch potatoes all weekend and fight over who gets to lie on the couch. There is love between them when they share the responsibilities of cooking; he cooks and she cleans.  Their love really blossoms when one of them is sick and the other tends to their every need.  Their love manifests in the little things, in every way and everyday.  Every time Cinderella looks into Prince Charming's eyes, they call each other pet names and laugh at their inside jokes, this way you can easily see the love. When Prince Charming is late or forgot they had plans and hasn't called and Cinderella is extremely worried, the love is revealed then. Even though Cinderella and Prince Charming tend to fight over all the stupid little things, the love still shows when they are fighting. Also, they still love each other even though they fight over those unimportant things.

    If children see this realistic version of love they won't grow up in a protected, perfect, make believe world the way I did. They would see that love is grand but they would also understand there are always kinks in a relationship that require work.  That is true no matter how much in love you are, or how long you have been together.
 
Fifty percent of all families end up in a broken home; their parents get a divorce.  I always thought that once you found love or got married that was it, until death do us part.  Happily ever after was not in my life story.  My parents had an extremely messy and painful divorce, which affected my mother, brother and myself.  We have never completely recovered.  My mom has remarried and my father has remarried twice.  Every idea, dream and thought I ever had of love has been destroyed by my surroundings growing up and by current life experiences.

The difference between real love and Disney love is that real love can hurt. My experience of true love forced me to realize that real love doesn’t always end happily ever after like Disney love.  Disney makes love seem easy, with no fighting or break ups, which happens even with true love.  Most importantly, true love is rare. Most of us have to work at keeping the love in our life.

I do not want Disney movies to loose the magic they have created over the years for children and even some adults. But I would like to see a small amount of reality represented in these movies.

I intend to prepare my children for real life as much as I can without scarring them or ruining their childhood.  Of course, every parent wants the best for their children. We want to protect them from every evil thing that could happen to them in their entire lifetime. If Disney put a new kind of movie out, maybe we can keep other little girls from going through what I have been through. Hopefully, by the time I have children Disney will make this movie and the movie could aid me in preparing my children for the real world instead of hindering their development.